Understanding My Weird Vulva
I’d been with a number of women in my 14 years of sexual activity, but this was going to be different than any experience I’d had before, in a lot of ways.
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Help! I’m Kinky? – A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 2 : Learning The Ropes – Safewords
We’ve made it – our final chapter for Learning The Ropes – figuring out our safewords! Previously we laid out a roadmap for negotiating a great scene. Safewords are a part of scene negotiation, but they felt to me like they deserved their own post because there’s a lot more to cover than “say uncle!”
Help! I’m Kinky? – A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 2 : Learning The Ropes – Elements Of The Scene
Welcome back for another instalment of how on earth to find your way through discovering your kinks! To recap, we’ve talked about the basics of entering the kinky lifestyle, where you might fall on the great big spectrum of not-vanilla, and how to play safer. Last time we went over how to find and set
2021 – New Flings and Old Flames
Last year was the first time I wrote any sort of year-end-recap and I did it mostly because of how Covid had changed so much, not only on my blog (was a bit of a slow year) but also life in general. We’re still not out of Covid (despite how half the world seems to
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Help! I’m Kinky? A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 2 : Learning The Ropes – Setting Limits
Hi there! Sorry it’s been a while since our last chat, I was taking a little break. Previously we covered some safety aspects that are attached to acting out your kinks, and dug a little bit into what goes into giving and obtaining proper consent to performing these kinks with others. This time I want
Help! I’m Kinky? A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 2 : Learning The Ropes – Safety and Consent
Alright, so we’ve discovered that we might not be very vanilla afterall, and we’ve touched on (but certainly not exhausted) the vast array of roles and labels we might find ourselves acting and wearing, and we’re working to handle our newbie frenzy so we don’t come off as rambunctious puppies with no sense about us….
Help! I’m Kinky? A mini-series of intros into The Lifestyle – Volume 1 : Now What? – Fetish Frenzy and FOMO
Frenzy and FOMO – two terms we use a lot in “The Scene”, especially around newbies. What do they mean? Why do we feel them? What do we do about it? That’s what this post is all about. Frenzy can be pretty self-explanatory even if we all feel it different or for different reasons –